Let's Tell Men What's Up, Like for Real

I wrote a guest post for Kevin, who's also known as the Nice Guy Dating Coach. He basically went from the nice guy we don't give a second look to the nice guy of our dreams. He's doing us all a great service by helping men find the proper footing when it comes to finding us (i.e. the girl of their dreams). I'm tackling a topic that many men find themselves struggling with, thinking that good "game" is going to get us eating out of the palm of their hand. Newsflash: It's not. The only thing it is going to do is keep their assess single because quality women like us aren't looking for some guy to blow smoke up our assess, right? I'd love to hear your thoughts on the matter! So...Why Do Men Think They Can Bullshit Women???

The Conversation Formula That Gets Men Laid, Part 2

Welcome back! It's Saturday, and you're ready for the grand logical conclusion, where we really cement this concept into that beautiful subconscious of yours,  which is...

Logical and serious conversation with a woman will allow her to decide if she likes your or not, however will never, ever, ever...EVER...ever set her emotions on fire. And remember, decision-making is a thought process. Emotions are REACTION. How much control do you have over yourself when you're angry or horny? Not much, right? Same thing with women when you learn how to ignite their emotion of sexual attraction for you. 

How do you do this? 

By having light, fun, playful conversation in a dominant, challenging manner. 

Uh oh, I can hear you now...

It's the old- "I want a girl to like me for me" objection. 

Sorry champ, the problem with that logic is that it's logic. Women are not men, and men are not women. We're called the opposite sex for a reason. If you're dying to have have a logical and serious conversation, then hang out with your boys. If you want to have a good time, then find a girl. 

It's a well-known fact that girls just want to have fun. If left alone, women wouldn't be working, they'd just be out in the forest dancing around in circles all day with other women. Men on the other hand would much prefer to tear down the forest, build massive ships, make ugly uniforms accompanying ridiculously silly hats, sail around the world and blast their cannons at other silly boys who've done the same thing on their side of the ocean. Women think we're nuts, because if they came across other women dancing around in circles in the forest, they'd join each other to make a bigger circle. What do we do? Fight each other.

But here's the kicker...

Despite the fact that we look incredibly ridiculous to women for behaving like men, it also turns them on like crazy at the same time. Remember--she doesn't have to like you to feel sexual attraction. You just have to behave like a fucking man. And nothing is more vagina-drying than a man who wants to go dance around in the forest with the women (commonality), and spend his time trying to impress her with his knowledge (instead of out in the world using it). Your job isn't to make her like you. Your job is to communicate to her that you're a man on a mission in life who's stopping by for a few movements to let her know she turns you on. 

How? 

By being playfully teasing and playfully challenging in a dominant, yet light way. Pretend it's the 5th grade again and you're on the playground. I wish I were joking, but I'm not. Now I know how much examples help, so I give you a solid example from the great Russell Brand when Fifi Box interviews him for an Australian TV show. Watch closely for his light, fun, playful conversation in a dominant, challenging manner: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=LenqrU05Yr0

Welcome back. 

Did you see her laughing? The way she laughed? That's how you get a girl to laugh, and that's what it looks like when a woman is on FIRE, just in case you wanted to know for reference. 

I'm Kevin Alexander. 

Peace.

PS-You can find out more about me on my site (http://niceguydating coach.com), sign up for my free newsletter, and just all around get your romantic life where you want it to be. 

The Conversation Formula That Gets Men Laid, Part I

This my very first guest post written by a man for men. Kevin is a dating coach, author & about to drop some major knowledge on the ancient art of talking a woman out of her panties in 3,2,1...

It's Friday guys, and you know what that means...You're headed our tonight in search of fun, drink and maybe the chance to talk to a pretty girl. I got you covered, brohim...

The Conversation Formula That Gets You Laid

Let me ask you a deeply personal and very serious question...

When was the last time that you had a conversation with a woman where you guys had everything in common, you did your best to make her laugh (and laugh she did), and to boot, she loved to hear about everything you read in The Economist this week, (you big, smart, funny man, you) and when all was said and done, all of that logical, serious conversation ended up with your cock in her mouth? 

Oh, it didn't? 

Are you surprised? 

Oh, you are? 

Okay, come up here, and sit in ol' Uncle Kevin's lap, he's about to dish out some well-needed knowledge and wisdom to the men reading this blog post. Chances are it's Friday or Saturday at about 1am, and jerk-off session to unrealistically kinky porn or not, you've decided to find the information you seek on the Internet, in order to remedy what just happened. You want a girl in your life. Or maybe two or three, but let's start with just one for now. 

I'm going to cover the conversation formula that will get you laid, because, well...

You're far too good looking to not be getting the kind of action that both of you deserve. Because trust me when I say that as a woman she wants to get it on with you, too, it's just that she needs to feel it up in her cerebrum before her vagina gets any inclination of desire. You see, unlike men, a woman's brain and her vagina are besties (lol!). Our brain and our penis couldn't be further apart; in fact, I don't even think they've ever met each other. Which leads me to our first difference between men and women: 

You have to excite her brain to excite her vagina. 

Now, this does NOT mean that she has to like you. Which explains precisely why the logic and serious conversation above that seeks to find commonality, make her laugh (you're in the right direction with this one, just misapplied), and show your smarts (also a step in the right direction, just slightly misguided), ISN'T WORKING. She's not going out with you on a date, she's not going down on you, she's not doing anything but keeping you in the Friend Zone where you rightfully belong. Which brings me to our second difference between men and women:  

Women have about 95 MORE emotions than men (all of which they can feel simultaneously); one of which, is called "sexual attraction." 

As men, we may feel horny or lust, but we do not actually have the mental capacity to feel sexual attraction the way a woman does. And in fact, since women can also feel several emotions simultaneously, she can very well think that you're a complete idiot while at the same time feeling immense sexual attraction towards you. I've actually had a woman recently tell me how ridiculous I am, while also blushing in heat at the exact same moment. Trust me, the first few times you start to understand and utilise the conversational formula I'll outline below, you'll see women in a whole new [incredibly beautiful] way. Namely as the vibrant, sexual creatures they are, with a goddess-like power that could set 1000 ships to sail. Too much? Maybe. But I dig it.

Let that digest because tomorrow we have the grand logical conclusion. 

Day Five of Thirty One Days of Writing

Q: How do you respond to change?

A: Not all that well. Here's the thing I like routine and when someone comes and pisses all over said schedule it pisses me off. I work really hard to keep everything in order and the smallest disruption can cause an outburst of epic proportions. It's not something I'm necessarily proud of but there's just no denying the fact I'm somewhat of a bossy pants. We can blame it on being the oldest sibling, it is what it is and this is my lot in life. PS-Don't tell me you haven't told someone what to do (and liked it)! PPS-I sort of like things how I like them and should probably work on being more flexible

The Thing About Change 

1. Change brings gifts. 

Change always comes bearing gifts. ~Price Pritchett

2. Change brings authenticity. 

We did not change as we grew older; we just became more clearly ourselves. ~Lynn Hall

3. Change brings second chances. 

We all have big changes in our lives that are more or less a second chance. ~Harrison Ford

 

Day Four of Thirty One Days of Writing

Q: What would you include in a truly epic gift basket? 

A: Adventure is the first thing that comes to mind when I think epic. I might not come off as the adventurous type but underneath the surface is a girl who just wants to have fun. The kind of fun that gets your heartbeat up or has you gazing at the stars. 

The adventures I'm up for experiencing since I know you wanna know: 

-glamping
-fly fishing

-white water rafting 

-skydiving
-topless beach (I'm not sure I want to be subjected to seeing other people's asses or junk. Just keeping it real y'all.)

I Hate Your Facebook Relationship

I know that hate is a strong word but it truly is the most appropriate way to express my feelings. The way I see it is sometimes there are going to be things that you hate. The same goes for people and in that instance you take the lessons learned with you, leave them behind and seek your revenge by being the happiest best looking you, you can be. Looking good is and always will be the best revenge!

But let's get back to the hate. When it comes to social media you will inevitably have moments when you're left scratching your head & think, "did so and so really just say that???" You mean they actually typed this & hit post. Then you'll be left to ponder if this person is in possession of a filter, if it's broken or perhaps been placed in the lost & found bin never to be seen again.

The First Facebook Relationship Status I Hate...

Is when you post a lovey dovey status update about your significant other and that person just so happens to be sitting next to you on the couch, I hate you. Here's an idea pause the tv (or wait for a commercial break), tap them on the shoulder and tell them. It is beyond me why people find it necessary to hit us over the head with "their love." Its yours. I know I sound like a lonely spinster but believe it or not I'm happy for your love,  but you don't hear me shouting it from the rooftops. Why? Because I'd look like a dumbass. Which is exactly what you look like only no one you know is going to tell you. 

I Hate This Status Too, Like A Lot...

If you are currently on an emotional rollercoaster with your significant other keep that shit to yourself. I get it, relationships aren't always easy & the person you love isn't always lovable. I'm sorry but if this describes your relationship you've got to keep your mouth shut.  I know how hard that is. No really, I just wrote about it & sometimes being a passive aggressive bitch just comes easier, I get it. Here's a secret there's power in silence. The first person you should give the silent treatment is the person who's treating you subpar & then do the rest of us a favor and give us the cold shoulder too. 

You look like an idiot when one day you're in love & the next you aren't. We are all starring into a screen and silently judging you. We're a little curious as to why you can't kick him to the curb. It's a few minutes of entertainment at the expense of your heart and that's  not fair to you. If he's an ass dump him, get fine, find a new man (who treats you better) and throw it in his face. Done and done.

I Hate This Status the MOST ...

There's nothing worse then referring to the person you're "sorta with" undercover. For example: "This weekend was amazing. I can't believe this is happening. You're the best!" The whole you know who you are post doesn't work because the rest of us don't know who you're talking about & news flash we want to. People update their Facebook status for a response and/or likes and there is no way in hell I'm clicking like on posts like this. Use better judgement by doing one of the following: 

A. If you aren't officially "together together" than wait until you are so you can use his freaking name without giving him a heart attack. 

B. If it's new and you aren't really wanting the whole judgy part that comes along with "publicly claiming" a person don't do it all. 

C. Tell him directly on the phone (you know it makes calls, right?), send him a text, email or be really forward and tell him the next time you see him.
                             

Day Three of Thirty One Days of Writing

Q: Have you ever traveled to a foreign country? What country would you most like to visit?

A: No, I've not had the pleasure of traveling internationally. The country I'd most like to pay a visit is a no brainer, it'd be France! I know that I want to go by myself & have a coming of age moment if you will. Is there an age limit on having such an experience? I know there better not be! So why France, well there's this fictional character who's love life mirrors my own from time to time, Carrie Bradshaw.  She dated this man, Alexander Petrovsky he was a rich, successful, older Russian artist. He asked her to leave the NYC behind and follow him to Paris although she knows he's self involved & has shown her on more than one occasion that he will never be able to fully commit, she goes. She loves him or at least thinks she does and who turns down Paris??? Not Carrie.

It's not long before she's lonely, depressed and confused. Raise your hand if you've been there too (just minus the being in Paris, right?). The worst part is when she runs into some fans at a bookstore who she plans to meet up with later that night, when Alexander turns into a selfish needy asshole. He's nervous about his opening and guilt's Carrie into coming with him & upon their arrival leaves her high and dry, much like he's done before. They argue, he slaps her, she leaves him only to run into Big & we all know where this is going. 

All that to say I want to see the Eiffel Tower, eat my heart out & do as many things as can off of this list by Time, which covers everything from galleries to roof top bars.